Bp Vigneron: Ten rules for handling disagreement like a Christian

1. The Rule of Charity:
"Charity is primary."
2. The Rule of Publicity:
"Think with the mind of the Church."
corollary: "Measure everything against the authoritative documents of the Magisterium."
3. The Rule of Legitimate Freedom:
"What the Church allows is not to be disallowed."
4. The Rule of Catholic Freedom:
"There's something for everybody, but not everything is for everybody."
5. The Rule of Modesty:
"Not all of my causes are God's causes."
6. The Rule of Integrity:
"To do evil in order to accomplish good is really to do evil."
7. The Rule of Realism:
"Remember that Satan is eager to corrupt my efforts to build up the Kingdom,
and he's smart enough to figure out a way to do it."
8. The Rule of Mystery:
"Not all the habits and attitudes which belong to a society governed
by a representative democracy are appropriate in the Church."
9. The Petrine Rule:
"Nobody ever built up the Church by tearing down the pope."
10. The Eschatological Rule:
"The victory is assured; my job is to run out the clock with style."

Bishop Vigneron has a column in (almost) every issue of The Catholic Voice, the Oakland diocese newspaper. The above is a summary of the article containing the list, and his explanatory commentary.

http://www.catholicvoiceoakland.org/05-09-19/bishopscolumn.htm